Bereavement Resources for Children and Families

A person's understanding of death is unique to that individual.  Age, life experiences, and beliefs all play an important role in determining how a person copes with the death of someone close. Children in particular may need special attention when dealing with the loss of a loved one.  Here are some tips from a child psychologist on concepts to think about when reading The Dragonfly Door with a child ...

The Dragonfly Door sometimes encourages young children (K through 4th grade) to feel more comfortable talking about a death after hearing the story.  We hope this bereavement resource will make its way into your personal library to assist you during these difficult times


The Dragonfly Door | a Mom's Choice Awards® Recipient
A Heartfelt Story about Loss and Change
by John Adams / illustrated by Barbara L. Gibson

Customer Comment:
"This is a gentle story of loss and new birth. It is a good way for children to understand growth, loss and death. It is a great book for families to share as a reading experience especially at a time of grieving."


  • "The Dragonfly Door is both informational and spiritual.... The core story is a message of healing for children coping with the loss of a loved one. Reaching out to children using the science of nature to address a sensitive and difficult topic, The Dragonfly Door is an invaluable tool for communication during a sensitive period." -- Armchair Interviews


    More Customer Comments about The Dragonfly Door:

    • "In 1998, my father died of cancer; and I never really understood why he left and when I would see him again. About January of '07 I stumbled across this book, and in reading it I found that I really did always have the answers to those and other questions that I had, it just took time for me to realize and understand. And this book really helped me to do that, and others will benefit from The Dragonfly Door....Thank you so much for working so hard on this wonderful story." 

    • "I took my granddaughter to the Cecil Day Butterfly House at Calloway Gardens in Georgia to share the book with her. She does not share her feelings about her dad's death easily, but after we read the book, she said that she sometimes heard him talking to her just as Nym heard Lea. Thank you for that moment when she opened up a little bit." 

    • "It's a beautiful story, put simply enough to help young people think less fearfully about death and what happens to their loved ones when they leave this life on earth. The bright pictures captivate the young eye and the sweet story holds the reader's attention. My granddaughter loves hearing me read it to her, after her grandfather died. Thank you for writing it."

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    Let this award-winning book help children identify the beauty and hope in all cycles of life as they follow two insects, Lea and Nym, and the struggles Nym endures when her friend disappears from their underwater home in the marsh. The Dragonfly Door is a tender story about loss and change, written to help parents and adults express their views about life and death.

    For Teachers or Counselors:

    For Parents:

    • Through a vision or dream, Nym learns that Lea has transformed into a beautiful dragonfly above the marsh.
    • Someday, Nym will see her friend again in this new world.
    • Parents and grandparents often interpret this as a metaphor for heaven or as an analogy to life after death.
    • In this way, the core message of the story becomes one of hope for those who grieve the loss of someone.
    • See a child psychologist's comments to parents about this book ...

    The Dragonfly Door may serve many purposes, such as comforting a grieving child or providing facts about dragonflies. Beautifully illustrated by Barbara L. Gibson, the book is cherished by parents, grandparents and teachers.


    While Nym slept, she heard Lea's voice saying, "Follow me, Nym. I'm going to show you where I am." "Will I see you again?" Nym asked. "Only when it's time for you to die too," Lea replied. "You won't see me in the marsh ever again. But let me show you what I will look like the next time you see me. Here, close your eyes." Nym closed her eyes. "Now look at me," Lea said. Nym opened her eyes and saw ...


    The Dragonfly Door
    US $9.99 / Paperback
    40 pages, Ages 5 to 9
    Publish Date: January 2013
    ISBN-13: 978-1-934066-16-4 

    US $17.95 / Hardcover
    40 pages, Ages 5 to 9
    Publish Date: January 2007
    ISBN-13: 978-1-934066-12-6

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      Winner Mom's Choice Awards
      Winner Evelyn Thurman Award
       Winner Benjamin Franklin Award
       Finalist National Best Books

    The Dragonfly Secret
    A Story of Boundless Love
    a Mom's Choice Awards® Recipient
    by Clea and John Adams
    illustrated by Barbara L. Gibson

    Can we discover answers to life's mysteries through nature? The Dragonfly Secret is a heartwarming story for family members who have lost a loved one.


    "This is an outstanding read. Well done in every area, story, and illustrations....Truly a precious gift to be given to any who are hurting from the loss of a loved one."
    -- The Midwest Book Review

    Some Customer Comments:

    • "As soon as I started reading it, I knew where it was going, and I started to cry. As I read each line and looked at the beautiful illustrations, my heart became filled with so much emotion. I felt as if you had written our story."

    • "Beautiful story with beautiful message….I suspect it will leave young readers with questions about death and its permanency – which is likely your goal."

    • "A heart-warming and very poignant tale that provides a wonderful way to begin to talk to children about death and grieving."

    • "What a book. I lost my mother years ago. I have always thought that the hummingbird that came around me was my mother. Thanks for hope."

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    This beautifully illustrated children’s book will open doors for families grieving a loss or searching for a message of love and hope. A story of a chance encounter between a mysterious boy and a dragonfly, the reader journeys through a beautiful garden with the dragonfly in search of the boy’s secret. In the end, the secret is revealed, gently reminding us that memories of a loved one are forever and offering a moving message of comfort and love.

    Discover the power of boundless love in this heartfelt story about friendship, family, and remembrance. Beautifully illustrated, The Dragonfly Secret gently encourages children and adults to explore life’s infinite possibilities. Because of it, readers may look at nature in an entirely new light.


    Lea explored other parts of the garden. She looked under a picnic table and peeked inside the gardener's tool shed. Suddenly, Lea felt a strange stillness. The birds and insects were quiet. Someone nearby was crying. Lea flew cautiously toward the sound. A woman sat on a wooden bench in the corner of the garden. Lea could see her face wet with tears. The light around the woman seemed dim. For a moment, Lea's wings felt very heavy. She, too, felt sad. This must be what the woman feels, she thought. The woman continued to cry. Uncertain of what to do, Lea made her way to the branch of a nearby tree. She looked at the woman. Something caught her attention. Beside the woman on the bench was ...


    The Dragonfly Secret
    Publish Date: October 2008
    US $16.95 / Hardcover
    32 pages, Ages 8 to Adult
    ISBN-13: 978-1-934066-13-3
    ISBN-10: 1-934066-13-3

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      Winner Mom's Choice Awards
      Medalist Moonbeam Award
      Finalist National Best Books Award
      Finalist Benjamin Franklin Award